Moderation in relationships - successful married life
Jabir (may Allah be pleased with him) narrates that the Holy Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said on the occasion of the farewell sermon:
“Fear Allah with regard to women, for you have obtained them by the command of Allah, and their private parts are made lawful by the word of Allah, Your right over them is that whoever you dislike should not enter your house, If they do so, then punish them with a blow that does not injure them or cause them severe pain. It is incumbent upon you to give them bread and sustenance in a good manner”. (Sahih Muslim)
I have coded the hadith Sharif with complete honesty. The orders regarding women were not deleted at all. If it is said in the hadith that "punish them" then it is also said "Punishment that does not hurt, and does not cause severe pain." It is also one of the rights of the wife that the husband should provide accommodation for her according to his size and strength.
Allah says (interpretation of the meaning):
Make them dwell in the place where you live according to your ability. (Surat al-Talaq: 6)
The wife has a right over her husband. If he has other wives, let him do justice between them in spending the night, bread, and accommodation, etc. The husband is obliged to treat his wife with kindness and gentleness, and according to his extent, offer him things that are the cause of love and affection for him. Not that the wife should not be given any importance or treat them badly in everything, nor he should break his wife's hard heart with his harsh behavior and bad manners.
This is because Allah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“And live well with women, if you don't like her, so maybe you don't like one thing, but Allah has put a lot of goodness in it”.
Allah also said according to this angle, which can come to the heart of any man. If for some reason you dislike something in your wife, even then, be patient. It may be that Allah has kept good for you in this matter.
Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him) narrated that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “Accept my advice about women, and treat them with kindness” (Sahih Bukhari Hadith No. 3153 Sahih Muslim Hadith No. 1468)
Therefore, a man who does not pay his dues under the joint family system between the parents, mother, sister, brother-in-law or wife in terms of one's relationship and position. He will be held accountable on the Day of Resurrection. In a joint family system, the wife is usually the most exploited.
Parental favours so man cannot pay the whole life, sisters are also very dear, the love of sisters is also unconditional, but remember regarding the wife, Islam has strongly emphasized. To treat your wife with good manners, and pay all its legitimate rights, and don’t hurt your wife.
The one who leaves parents, home, all relationships for you and comes to your house only for you tied to the sacred thread of Shariah like marriage. Then this is your duty to fulfil your duty regarding this relationship. Strengthening this new bond with love, feeling and beautiful attitude is the first responsibility of a man. Remember, a successful person is the one who creates the first and most sweetness in love and relationships.
In all these relationships, if the wife's relationship is not a blood relationship, so don't underestimate it, rather, the wife is your best friend in the world, Allah has chosen her for you.
The wife has very important rights separately. After all, the Holy Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) had emphasized in his Farewell Sermon on treating his wives well.
Only a man who can deal with love and moderation in all relationships is actually called a man. A man who does not have the ability to respect all four relationships according to their rights and status in the presence of mother, sister, wife and sister-in-law, believe me, is not really worthy of being called a man.
Therefore, all my men, including me, should consider this point, by your character and attitude, you should be able to win the hearts of all relationships، even if it is not possible to win the heart, at least do not hurt the heart of any relationship, because all relationships are important and necessary in their own sphere.